I was reading a fairly mainstream LDS blog called Mormonism Unveiled the other day. The post titled “Mormon Messages: Elder Dallin C. Oaks Speaks Out On Marriage And Divorce; Divorced Members Are Not ‘Second-Class Saints’” stuck a nerve. The post quotes extensively from the 2007 General Conference talk mentioned in the title.
As I read the article highlighting marriage as a requirement for exaltation, and the appropriate reasons for entering and exiting the bonds of matrimony. The most important point, however, struck me as a rather relatable one for gay and lesbian members of the church. Something else in the piece caught my attention, though. Three words:
Jack Mormon (the blogger) used the term to describe a misconception that divorced Mormons are inferior to married Mormons. I think the term might be useful in the gay Mormon discussion. Because the greatest form of salvation is tied to marriage and marriage isn’t that perfect, natural fit for gay Mormons, it’s easy for us to feel consigned to a less fulfilling life. No other term I’ve seen has really described the way the situation sat with me.
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